THE PATH TO FORGIVENESS

The way you forgive is simple. Each time you think of the other person, you use the Law of Substitution and say, ''God bless him/her; I forgive him/her for everything, and I wish him/her well.'' It is not possible to bless and forgive another person and simultaneously be angry or upset. The positive thought cancels out the negative thought. 

       You can speed up the process of personal liberation by accepting responsibility for your share of what happened. Very few negative events that lead to anger and resentment occur in a vacuum. Almost invariably, you did something to contribute to the situation. You therefore need to have the maturity to take your share of the responsibility. 

       You can then say, ''I am responsible. I shouldn't have gotten into the situation in the first place, or stayed in so long. I should not have done what I did. I forgive him/her completely and let it go.'' 

       It may be difficult for you to forgive at first.These words will be hard for you. Many people have built their entire adult lives around their grievances. They are afraid that they will have nothing else to talk about if they stop complaining about their parents or their bad marriages. But don't worry. 

       When you forgive others and let them go, you soon begin to feel lighter and happier. As the thoughts of anger and resentment fade away, your mind will fill with positive thoughts.You will have more energy and enthusiasm. You will feel stronger and more confident.Your whole future will open up before you, like a summer sunrise. 

       Don't worry about what your friends think or say when you decide to forgive people who have hurt you.They are probably tired of hearing your complaints about the unfortunate events of your past. In fact, when you start forgiving, you will often find that the only common bond between you and certain people is your gripe sessions. When you decide to forgive others, you may no longer find them very interesting to talk to.